It can be easy to get wrapped up in the dread of everyday life. Starting to wonder where you fit in, what your purpose is, or what everything means, are all signs of an existential crisis.
It can be hard to pull yourself out of something like this, as it becomes overwhelming and overpowering over everything around you.
That being said, there are ways you can slowly pull yourself out of a crisis.
1. Identify The Crisis
When you start to feel like things are spinning around you, try and identify the cause of the problem. Did someone say something to you that made you feel uncomfortable? Were you bombarded with projects at work which made you feel overwhelmed?
Everyone has their triggers when it comes to existential crises. For example, mine is my birthday. Every years, for two weeks prior to the day, I start to get overwhelmed and feel as though I can't function.
Knowing what triggers you can help you weather the storm.
2. Know When To Leave It
There are some crises that just need to work themselves out. Sometimes the extra stress can push you to do more, which sounds ridiculous but it's true.
You may start to notice a pattern with your crises, as I do with my birthday. I know that even though these feelings are here, there's really nothing I can do to stop them. Knowing when to leave it alone is a good way to reduce your anxiety surrounding it all.
3. Remind Yourself Of Your Loved Ones
A big cause of an existential crisis is usually that you feel unloved or unimportant. When this happens, you would do well to remember all the people in your life that really do care about you.
Whether that be a partner, a best friend, a family member, or even a co-worker, reminding yourself that there are people in the world who care about your well being can help curb a crisis.
4. What Would Your Idol Say?
This sound so strange, but I swear it works. When you start to find yourself spiraling, think of the one person you idolize most and ask yourself what they would say to you. It could be someone in your life, or even just a famous celebrity you love.
Thinking from another person's perspective can help bring you back down to reality as you detach yourself from the problem and look at it with "different" eyes.
5. Dig Deeper
Sometimes the thing you thought triggered your crisis is just a mask for something else. Make an effort to dig a little deeper into your problems. Okay, someone said something to you at work. But was it the words that made you upset, or the feeling attached to those words.
Being able to identify the root of your problems can help you deal with them more effectively later on.
6. Force Yourself To Push Through
An existential crisis can be debilitating, but it is important to not lock yourself away while you try to work through it. Don't cancel plans, don't seclude yourself. Force yourself to go out and do things.
Most of the time, surrounding yourself with positive people can help bring you out of a crisis, even if you're reluctant at first. It's hard to imagine feeling "normal" again once you're in a funk, but it's important to try.
7. Use It As Motivation
Once you identify the problem, see if you can use your crisis as motivation. Feeling stuck in your job? Use that feeling to push yourself towards the job hunt.
Feeling lonely? Try to make an effort to make more friends, talk with more co-workers, or join more social activities.
I always try to remember that complaining about something and not doing anything to fix it won't help your problems down the road. If you're unhappy, then do what you can to change that.
8. Clean Up
It's a small thing, but cleaning your house or even just your desk can lead to a world of change. It's been proven that you feel more anxious in a messy to cluttered space than in a clean one, because your brain is subconsciously thinking about cleaning up.
A lot of crises are based around feeling a loss of control, but tidying and cleaning is something you can take the reigns on.
9. Stop Comparing
A big part of my personal crises often relates to what those around me have accomplished. When my friends get engaged, have babies, get promotions, or any other big milestone, I find myself in a tailspin because I haven't hit those same life markers.
But here's the thing, we don't all live the same life. Comparing yourself to others is one of the most unhealthy things you can do. Your milestones will happen when they happen, and it's not worth losing sleep over.
10. Reach Out
There are times when you can't pull yourself out of a crisis, and that's when you need to reach out for help. It could be as simple as talking to a friend honestly about your feelings, or it could mean seeking professional help for your issues.
Therapists, support groups, and even mental health hotlines are all viable and respectable options when it comes to getting help. You are worth it, and you owe it to yourself and your loved ones to keep pushing through.